This is the last in my non-expert series about parenting and mentoring our children, which are probably the most important jobs that most of us will ever have.  We have already covered many important aspects of raising children, such as loving them and setting boundaries and expectations.  So this edition will wrap it up with a few more abstract thoughts on these important subjects. 

  • The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
  • Teach children not to cry or whine when things go poorly, but instead to use words.
  • If children fall down, teach them to get up – on their own.
  • When looking for a mate, project who you would like to be the mother/father of your children.  That approach alone has changed numbers of lives – for the better.
  • Within reason, if someone is “bullying” your children, give them some advice, but let them deal with it themselves.
  • The classic father is gentle beneath his firmness, and the classic mother is firm beneath her gentleness.

Finally, although it may for some people not be politically correct to discuss this issue so bluntly, one of the best things that parents can do for their children is to be married to each other.  How and with whom people live if they are not parents I leave to their own sense of morals and views of Liberty.  But if people have children they owe it to their children to be legally as well as morally committed to each other in marriage.  Without this commitment, in so many ways the children of those parents are virtually condemned to having lives of substantially reduced opportunities!  And, tragically, today’s social mores appear almost routinely to accept this as the status quo.  For example, if Google is accurate, something like 39.8 percent of ALL births in the United States come to unwed mothers, with a breakdown of 29 percent for Caucasians, 53 percent for Hispanics, and 71 percent for African Americans.  So what can we do about this?  We should hammer this thought into children we can influence from an early age, and when we hear laudatory reports about male celebrities who have children “with their girlfriends,” we should respond with sadness and even shame.  This issue should not be left to religious and spiritual leaders alone, each of us must all vocally do our part. Liberty comes with responsibilities, and where better to place our efforts than the future of so many of our children?  

Quote for the week:  “Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.”  Margaret Mead

Judge Jim Gray (Ret.)
2012 Libertarian candidate for Vice President, along with
Governor Gary Johnson as the candidate for President